Author: Anonymous
Editor: Tia Belcher
Date: 1/31/2017
Ten battles over,
countless more to go, the war continues. This war has become her
favorite way to inflict as much pain on as many people as she can at all
cost – including the use of her children in court and using them to
carry her “bombs” to our home. I sit here in the dark watching the hurt
silently fall from my husband’s eyes and I know deep down there is no
way to stop this – the attorneys will keep collecting, the judges will
continue to allow motion after motion, Mom will continue to claim her
“victory,” and the kids, these poor kids, will continue to be in
crisis. Family court will continue to be her weapon of choice and the
family court will welcome her with open arms with ammunition at the
ready – with no regard to where the most damage is occurring – to THE
KIDS!
Over the four years that I have known my husband,
thirty-three motions/petitions have been filed in one court and four in
another. That is thirty-seven motions/petitions in four years -
actually three - because she went silent for 10 months (just wait for
the reason)! Pretty much every month or so we receive a “bomb” through
our attorney or even through the kids. Mom says this - Mom says you owe
her - Mom says you get credit if I stay here, so I am moving out -
petition to modify custody - petition to modify support - petition for
attorney’s fees - motion for continuance - motion for in camera
interview for the children, and so on and so on. Every month! We may
be growing numb to the court induced bombs, but we will never grow numb
to hearing the kids being drawn into this delusional battle and watching
the kids suffer.
Ten total orders have been written by the judges
– all saying the same thing from the original order. Dad’s parenting
time remains the same, support is X dollars, meeting time and place is
to be X. And for four years, not one judge or attorney warned anyone
about drawing the kids into this battle, not one judge said to stop this
nonsense, not one judge said “petition denied” because this was just
argued and decided upon last month. The narcissists’ weapon is ready to
fire at any time – day or night! And we wait on the battlefield with
our shields up trying to protect the kids from all of this at all cost!
The
10 months of silence is the true reason why this weapon should be
removed – immediately! After court order number 9, Mom’s support was
lowered due to a significant lie about the use of insurance and
daycare. Neither was deemed necessary by court since Mom was on
Medicaid and was not employed more than 12 hours per week and the
children were in school during this time. In some states, insurance and
daycare are used in the support worksheet. Well, this was not the
answer that she wanted – her weapon finally backfired! Like a child
whose toy was removed, she retaliated by writing and mailing a letter to
the judge’s personal home. Did she sign HER name? Of course not, this
letter was allegedly written by one of the children, but any fool could
see through this. So the 10 months of “silence” was used to find a new
attorney and new judge that would listen to her since her existing
weapon may not be as ready to accept her ammunition. Were there any
consequences for this action? No Way! Are you kidding me? That brings
us to order number 10!!
Order number 10 - new judge in a new
state! Let’s shop for someone who will allow this nonsense to
continue!! Forum shopping at its finest! Don’t get what you want – go
find another judge that will! Did the new judge in the new state take
into consideration that the existing judge knew the case and created the
existing orders based on his FULL knowledge of the case? NO! Why
would we let common sense prevail in any of this nonsense? Keep the
weapon loaded for her, family court, maybe one of these bombs will
eventually create the damage on the coparent that it is intended for
because the real damage is happening at home and at school, in the kids’
everyday lives. Why can’t the courts see that? I don’t have that high
of expectations for Mom, but I do for the courts. I thought you were
for the “best interest of the children.” Grades faltering, lack of
attention or focus on anything, missed school, perpetual illnesses,
aggression toward other children, lying, secrets, lack of trust, lack of
confidence, fear, anger, confusion – DO YOU CALL THIS THE BEST INTEREST
OF THE CHILDREN????????? Time to wake up family court! You are being
used!
So, hurt falls silently from his eyes, while he watches the
weapon reload. The war continues, the next battle is pending. The
shield is weakening, one of our biggest fears are realized. Peace,
stability and security for our children – only a pipedream at this
point. There is no one that will stop the battles from continuing. One
judge says no, another will take his place. One attorney says no,
there are hundreds waiting with new bombs and ammunition. The damage
this horrible weapon has inflicted on parents is nothing compared to the
damage this weapon continues to inflict on our children’s present and
future. You want to change the world - break the weapon! Stop this
silent abuse of our children!!
