For Those Hurting this Mother's Day

Author: Kim Turner 5/8/2016

 Mother's Day is a day that should be filled with love, laughter, flowers, chocolates, children and memories; but for many, it is quite the contrary. It is a day of grieving, sorrow, loneliness, depression, and pain. With the ever-growing number of divorce and separation, children are often deprived of a relationship with one of their parents and are used as leverage, a weapon, or a means to seek revenge against a parent. Sadly, thousands of mothers and children will be separated on this Mother's Day. Be watchful, as today may be the hardest day of the year for some.

 For those mothers enduring the excruciating pain of missing their living children, today is bitter-sweet, a day where the one thing you hold dearest, has been taken from you. To those mother's around the world who are just waiting for a chance to see their children again; to hold them, kiss them, and tell them how much they love them; this is for you.

 This may be your first Mother's Day without your children, or it may be your 5th; either way the pain is unbearable. As you struggle through this day, do not feel as though you need to bottle up, hide, or conceal your emotions. In fact, I urge you to cry and let out your pain. Crying is not a form of weakness, crying is a form of strength. Crying shows you are strong enough to make it through your struggles and continue living your life. A good cry is a way to release the pain, frustration, and heartache and to regain your ground and composure for the days to come. Tears let us know we still feel, and we have not gone numb. Holding in your emotions today will only make this day harder. You are experiencing the most horrific pain imaginable, an indescribable pain, a pain only those who have suffered can truly share, understand, and sympathize with your loss and anguish.

 Know that you are not alone, you are one of thousands of mothers around the world missing their children today; feeling your same pain, thinking your same thoughts, and crying your same tears. Through this, we are connected, bonded, by a horrible travesty; but I for one, find comfort in knowing I am not alone in this experience.

 I want you to know, your feelings of hurt, betrayal, heartache, distrust, sadness, and depression are justified. Let today be your day to embrace those feelings in order to release your deepest pent up emotions; to release the stress, pain, and anxiety you have let build up over time. Do this so tomorrow you can pick your head up and say "I've made it another day, nothing is going to stop me." Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life, this is not the end of your story, this is not the end of your relationship with your children. The day will come where you will see them again.

 Right now, in this moment, your children are thinking about you, and missing you. Wishing they could tell you these very things. Wishing they could hold you, hug you, and kiss you, and waiting for that day they reunite with you.

 Just know, YOU are strong, YOU are courageous, YOU are a hero, my hero, your children's hero. I commend you for your strength and perseverance through enduring this devastating and unbearable pain. It takes a true warrior to keep moving forward.

 One day this will all be behind you; until then, stay strong, take care of yourself and your health, and brace yourself for the opportunity to reconnect with your children when the time comes.

Sincerely,
~An admirer of your strength